Survival guide includes breaking traditions
The 'big' holidays are harder if you're alone, after being used to celebrating with a loved one
Holidays can be a time of dread and loneliness for people who have recently lost a loved one. And so many people find themselves in that situation that Hope for Bereaved does workshops and has a pamphlet out with suggestions for both the bereaved and friends of bereaved.
Therese Schoeneck, Hope's founder, says keys to surviving include being willing to break with tradition (you don't 'have to' bake cookies or send out cards, or cook the feast), and being willing to accept for help and also help others (volunteering will make you feel better, honest!).
And, if your friend is bereaved, suggestions include making offers of help specific (don't just say 'call me anytime')--offer to help shop or join in a chore like decorating. A special card or phone call will also make the bereaved person feel included.
The pamphlet, 'Coping with the Holidays' is available free with a stamped, self addressed envelope to:
Hope for Bereaved
4500 Onondaga Boulevard
Syracuse, NY 13219
And, there's a free coping workshop on Thursday, December 1st at 6:30 at the center (across from Westhill High School).
The Hope website has more information, or you can call 475-HOPE (4673) for information and to sign up.
